Let's talk about reaching goals. I think that is always good food for conversation. Because having plans and wanting to achieve somthing, that on itself is a good thing. Maybe people would even say that it is something admirable. And that people who have no goals are not winners.

But: setting a goal is not the hard part at all. It is nothing to be admired for. Anybody can set a goal, but not everybody has endurance to achieve it. You see, when you plan something, when you start to imagine the situation as it will be, when you wil fulfill your plans, you are not in the least bit at that spot, at that place of 'winning'. You're not halve there: with setting a goal, the most difficult part of your plan wil start. And that is: enduring untill the end.

The road to the goal is never a paved road, with no roundabouts, no curves, no troubles or doors that may be closing, on the path ahead of you.

It is never easy. There will always be sómething. It might be little, it might be big. And giving up, not pushing through is an answer that might be given, sometimes too easily. 

No one, not one person or situation can set that goal for you. Sure, people around you may have demands or expectations, that probably gonna lead you towards setting a goal. Some of which may lead to making plans and setting a goal which never would have been a goal you would have thought of yourself without any pressure from others.

But you are the person who desides to give in to that. That is the flat situation. Being aware that reasons to come to that desision to set that goal could always be more complicated, that there could always be something (big) at steak - i'm just going tot flatten it down to that:

You are always in control of your own live, nobody can force you to set a goal, nobody can make you reach something you don't want achieve - unless you allow them to do so.

Don't ever let somebody take over your live or threaten to do so. Set your own goals: reaching things yoú want to achieve, is hard enough, as it is.

Built your dreams, set out towards them and endure. Never start the journey with the vision of the dream, but with the focus on what should be the result at the end. The chance of succes will be higher, if you let your actions be guided by what lies ahead.

Keep your eye on the reward. Whatever that reward may be after reaching the goal. (It may be - for example - better health, more money, getting selected for that one exclusive exhibition.)

So the reward is te goal.
not the goal is the goal.

Do not be tempted: don't look away, keep your eye on that.

And than you are already a winner!