We all know them. Anyone who had any succes in their life, has a some point met one: a Mole.

They look a lot like haters or share some similarities, but are not exactly the same:

A Mole can be a hater, but a hater doesn't nessecarily have to be a Mole.

I have to explain myself now.

In the country where i live in, we have this populair tv show, it is called 'Who is the Mole?' In this show the Mole of that particulair season tries to keep the profit that the group makes as low as possible ánd tries to sabotage the game. In the meanwhile the Mole had to make it look like he (or she) is working together, so that no one will get suspicious and the Mole will not be discovered.

Sometimes it's really not so different fom real life.

In my case i met one of my Moles when a group of students tried to set up an special group at the Academy, where i am a Board Member.

I wasn't even suppose to come, but since the other Board Member had an obligation i tried to make my way up there.

I couldn't be there at the time it started, but i found it important that questions could be asked to the board - in case there were any - so i went there. I was sorry i spent my time traveling there because i didn't meet friendly people, but ended up in hostile environment.

It was not that the people had been as obviously unfriendly before, but they were certainly not my 'friends' at the time of the meeting, with one specific person - who is much older than the rest - taking the lead in disrespecting me. I could have started a subcutaneous battle right there, but i decided to be a Mole too.

I showed some irritation, could not totally hide my anger, but i chose for the most strategic move at that moment. And just like a Mole - a real one - i pulled back. Just because one or more haters (i knew there was at least one hater now, but actually i am convinced there where more)had the brutality to disrepect me like that, in public, it didn't mean i had to fall back to that same low level, which is in my eyes really low and tells more about the other people than about me anyway.

So when do you retreat? Would it better to be a Mole or is that not defending yourself?

How do i cope with haters or Moles?

Well: i always think about which is gonna benefit me more at long term.

Yes, it might give an amount of satisfaction to react immidiately and humilite the person right back. But that is not always the smartest answer. In my case, i do have a certain position, which reaquires of me that i can react within boundaries of my own anger. Yes, i am human and i can react accordingly. But i can also be more mature than an another if the other is obviously acting a bit childish or hypocrite (in comparison to earlier behaviour towards a person, i mean)

I would rather be the Mole that retreits at a certain moment which shows i have much more power over the situation and a have learned from my parents a form of respect, than just take the bate and becoming really angry.

A Mole, that probably should identify as a hater, but is not brave enough to do so and in acting that way, looses my respect.

But i dó respect the fact that having haters means you are not a nobody, but have reached something that - for whatever reason - they might be b bit envious of. It is nothing, nothing that means something.

So in a twisted way my Moles not only take me higher, but also give me perfect opportunities to practise things like:

- patience,

- respect and 

- repressing negative emotions

So just keep that in mind, whenever you meet a mole.

It not only trains you but confirms that you have reached something.

I would say that behaving like a Mole right back - which of course depends on the situation: sometimes it is absolutely the right behaviour to defend yourself 'on the spot' - can be a good choice, at times.

Being a Mole right back deserves way more respect than acting like a Mole: because Moles are blind, but the people surrounding and watching the situation obviously arent.